I am aware that when I “lose it’ with my kids it usually has little to do with their behavior, no matter how taxing, embarrassing or outrageous it may be, and everything to do with judging myself.
When I stay present, both with my children and myself, and choose to just listen and be with them through their struggle or tantrum, I find the situation diffuses more rapidly. And often my response is much more creative, compassionate, and effective. I am able to use my child’s meltdown as an opportunity for learning, love, connection, and healing rather than a moment where I say something I don’t mean or lose my temper – which of course I invariably regret once I have calmed down.
When my child has a meltdown or acts inappropriately (more…)
